Let me start this blog off with a quick recap story so we can get a better understanding of the idea behind this piece…
Two weeks ago I was standing in line to pick my oldest son up from his afternoon karate class at school. It was the first day, so it was a mad house. The lines were wrapped in directions that made no sense to a capable,knowledgeable adult and the parents were losing their minds due to the fact they had to wait. (Could the school have planned better to have avoided this dilemma? MOST DEFINITELY!)
As I am standing in line,with my daughter asleep on my shoulder and my middle son asking if we could leave, I have no choice but to listen to the bickering of grown adults. Whether it be on the phone with their spouses or to each other about the outrageous filing system they had us in.
Lets pause here:
I usually try to be positive when in situations like this, in order to diminish the anger from other people around me. If we can all make light of a crappy situation, it doesn’t seem so bad anymore,right?
Okay back to my story. While I am in line, thinking to myself how awful this situation was, I look over and see a mom with two little girls. One had to have been around three and the other must have been weeks old and in a car seat carrier. First off, if a mother is lugging around one of those bad boys….HELP HER IN ANY WAY POSSIBLE!!!! As she was standing there, towards the end of the line, her baby started crying. You could tell she was over it. The day must have been long, she’s waiting in a line with agitated people (parents might I remind you) and she has a screaming baby.
Two things that drive me nuts are
1)Mom’s who don’t hold a door open for you when you are pushing a stroller ( SO RUDE)
2) Parents who stare at you in annoyance when your child cries (THE WORST!!)
Now back to the story. As her baby is crying and she looks desperate for either; a tall iced macchiato, a shot of rum or maybe just some peace and quite, I can see the stares of frustration other parents are giving her. I literally couldn’t take it anymore.
“Excuse me. Why don’t you come jump in front of me, and don’t tell me No, because we both know you want to.” I said to her
“Are you sure, I don’t want to….okay I will!” she said with a smile
As she joined me in line we both had a good laugh at the humor of it all. Here we were, two mothers in a crowd of parents, who just needed to rely on each other.
The point of telling you the story is to remind all of us, to be aware of one another. Motherhood is universal. It’s a language we all speak. It’s a tribe that should be able to ask for help and not be criticized for it. If you see a baby crying, don’t shoot a sour glance at the mom. Try walking up and with a smile and kind voice, letting her know she’s not alone. If you see a mom loading groceries in her car and wrangling a circus of kids, it takes only a minute to ask if she may need a hand. Most importantly if you see a mom in line at Starbucks, just buy her a drink. God knows she needs it!
Women, we truly are in this chaotic adventure together and once we all realize that it will be so much easier to rely on one another when the times get a little hard, stressed or damn near aggravating. It doesn’t take much for us to step out of our comfort zones, to comfort another!